This I Believe Essay
June 4, 2014
Family Should Come First
Most of my earliest memories do not have my biological father in them, even though he lived less than a 5 minute walk away.
I grew up in what is now considered to be a "broken home" environment. Back in the seventies I lived in a trailer court with my mom and her new husband, the infamous step-dad. During this time, my ‘real' dad was moving on with his life as well, living with his new wife only three streets away. It was uncommon for him to call or come over to spend time with me, but being so young it didn’t really matter at the time.
As the holidays started to fly by my stepfather began to ...view middle of the document...
What he needs is his dad to take an interest in him, get more involved with his life and show him that family is always there for each other no matter what”.
My dad became silent. I think he knew there was a lot of truth to my stepfathers’ words. What surprised me the most is that these words came from a man that I despised at the time. Yet there he was, teaching me life’s most fundamental lesson.
That is why I believe that friends and partners will come and go but your family will never change. Family inspires its generations to prepare for the future, discusses its past experiences with each other in hopes to pass on some knowledge, and above all, Family is ALWAYS there for each other. Through hard times or good fortune, nobody should ever feel like their own family does not support them. As a child, this realization was neither quick nor easy for me to reach. In retrospect I’m sure it wasn’t a piece of cake for my real dad to hear my stepfather tell him that he was neglecting his family responsibilities either.
My real dad never did learn to be a part of my life before cancer took him. Instead of harboring anger towards the man, I loved him. And about a month before he passed away, I placed his newborn granddaughter in his arms for the first and only time. I wish you could have seen the look on his face and emotions in his eyes. At the very end of his life I think he finally understood what the word family means. This is what I believe.