December 10, 2013
Today many of us people still lack on the ability to communicate effectively within interpersonal relationships. It is through teamwork and collaboration that effective communication occurs. By analyzing and studying the communication process we can improve our ability to communicate effectively between one another. To have a successful interpersonal relationship one must first interact with others, which is called interpersonal communication (Hubel’s &ump; Weaver pg.156). Recognizing emotions in other is a very important first step for building a relationship. If you ...view middle of the document...
If the nonverbal cues and the spoken message are strange, the flow of communication is stuck. Right or wrong, the receiver of the communication tends to base the intentions of the sender on the non- verbal cues one receives.
Before a person makes an effort to form an interpersonal relationship they must decide what attracted them about this person and why they want to have the relationship. There are many factors that make up attraction to others. Physical attraction, perceived gain, similarities, differences, and proximity are some of them (Hubel’s and Weaver, 2007).
Most people are attracted to others because of the way they look, same personality and same education. Some people might have different characteristics that one might be attracted too. If a person is not attracted to your appearance they are mostly not come up and have a conversation with you. For example, if an individual, who does not like tattoos, is taking a class and has to choose a partner for a project, but there are only two people left and one of them has tattoos he or she will mostly likely choose the individual without tattoos ,even if the person with tattoos is a very intelligent individual.
There are many cases where we are attracted to someone because of how we understand and comprehend. The similarities and differences are most important factor in determining if the relationship will be right for you. Often we find ourselves attracted to people who share the same beliefs, values, and religion. Most people are also attracted to people who enjoy the same activities as they do. Contrary to the similarities people may also be attracted to the differences. For example, person who doesn’t like to make decisions might be attracted to a strong decision maker. Because these characteristics complement each other, they might help strengthen the relationship (Hubel’s and Weaver 2007 pg161). Proximity is a valuable factor also when it comes to evaluating the pros and cons of a relationship. Proximity is the close contact that occurs when people share an experience such as at work, school, or play (Hubel’s and Weaver 2007 pg161).If a person does not want to have a long distance romantic relationship and their partner moves away to attend college in another state, and then it is most likely that the relationship will not last. Moving on to the next steps of forming an interpersonal relationship would be our motives for communicating. We are motivated to form relationships for many reasons such as, pleasure, affection, inclusion, escape, relaxation, control and health (Hubel’s, 2007 pg162-163).
If an individual is motivated by pleasure he or she might just want someone to go to the movies or discuss politics views with them. Maybe we might be motivated by affection; many people are looking for someone to give them attention more; to say good job, or as a pat on their back or a little kiss every now and then. Many marriages end in break up...