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The Pleasurable Friendship Vs. The Perfect Friendship

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     In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle tells us that there are three types of friendships; the useful, the pleasurable, and the perfect. In this paper, I am going to try to show why the pleasurable friendship is the worst kind to have, and of course why the perfect friendship would be the best.

     "Now those who love each other for their utility do not love each other for themselves but in virtue of some good which they get form each other." (Nic. Ethics Bk.8:3) Among my extremes of the pleasurable and the perfect, utility is definitely the middle ground. In a friendship of utility (usefulness) both parties mutually benefit off of one another, and, "…the friendship is dissolved, ...view middle of the document...

" (Bk.8:3 lns 34-37) Pleasure seekers are just as quick to pick you up as they are to let you down.

     Having a friend who is a pleasure seeker is setting yourself up for disappointment and possibly heartache, "…for they live under the guidance of emotion, and pursue above all what is pleasant to themselves and what is immediately before them;…" (Bk. 8:3 lns. 32-34) That friend will use you and make you feel good, then dump you leaving feeling used and abused. Pleasurable friendships sometimes have the facade of being perfect, but the end result is always negative.

Now the perfect friendship. I do disagree with Aristotle when he says that it can exist in only, "…men who are good, and alike in virtue…" (Bk.8:3 lns.6-7).
Two totally different people from different walks of life, for instance a convict and a Christian can be very good friends, simply because that despite their variances, they were able to find a common thread to link them together. From personal experience I can say that opposites do attract, my very best friends and I are extremely opposites, and I like that they have the attributes that I don’t because that makes them and our relationship special. I wish them good and I know that they wish me the same. Different people are able to bring to the friendship something that...

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