The Loss of a Life Partner
The Loss of a Life Partner
Feelings of loss are very personal because only the person involved in the loss knows what is significant to them. People commonly associate certain losses with strong feelings of grief.
The solitude is always agonizing, especially for someone who has never lived alone. Many people lose their spouses each year. Because the modern society has few mourning rituals other than the memorial service, they may find themselves alone and disconsolate just when they are most in need of comfort.
Different Kinds of Loss
Loss of one’s partner can be due to various reasons including:
• Death of a partner/Bereavement
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Also, if she wants to begin a new relationship, she may have difficulty cultivating a positive identity as a partner because of the negative experiences with her lost partner.
Bereavement triggers a normal, natural, healthy process that often leaves the victim/bereaved partner feeling far from normal, natural and healthy. Indeed it can leave you feeling quite mad, suicidal, or even like harming others. Feeling like it for a period of time is one thing, if you think about acting on it, then it is time to get help and support from a professional who is experienced and trained in bereavement issues.
One of the most important things to remember, is that these feelings - whatever they are, won't last forever. It is very frightening to experience such powerful and intense feelings that you have not perhaps, experienced before. People often describe feeling distant, alone, and isolated, that no one seems to understand them. They may feel they are going crazy, or just wish they were no longer alive. These are all very common, but are little spoken about, thoughts and emotions.
Recent bereavement may trigger past losses. This can be very confusing and distressing. Often, how we dealt with or witnessed others dealing with loss, colours our own current experience.
Sudden versus Predictable Loss
Sudden or shocking losses due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide can be traumatic. There is no way to prepare. They can challenge your sense of security and confidence in the predictability of life. You may experience symptoms such as sleep disturbance, nightmares, distressing thoughts, social isolation, or severe anxiety.
“Sudden death is easiest for the person who dies, hardest for survivors,” says author David Caroll, author of Living with Dying. Survivors frequently experience a hysterical reaction or become stoically silent.
These include losses like those due to terminal illness. Sometimes, they allow more time to prepare for the loss. However, they create two layers of grief: the grief related to the anticipation of the loss and the grief related to the final loss.
Grief is something that everyone will experience sometime in his/her lifetime. When a person experiences the loss of someone they love, either through divorce or death, they are forced to face grief. When a loss occurs, most of us are unprepared for how to handle it.
There is a lot to learn about grief, especially the necessity of grieving a loss.
Symptoms of Grief
How do you know if you are grieving?
If you have suffered a loss through the death of a loved one or through divorce/ separation, death or due to an illness, you are probably grieving.
If you exhibit or are feeling any or all of the following symptoms, you are dealing with grief. You must allow yourself to feel these feelings, and accept the fact that you are normal if you are engaging in any of these behaviors and signs of grief. You need to allow...