3 March 2011
The Innocent Victims
In today’s society, divorce is more the norm than ever before. Fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. Divorce, once uncommon in our society, is now becoming more and more frequent, disrupting our children's state of well-being. Some children of divorced families have long-term behavior problems such as depression, low self-esteem, poor school performance, acting out, and difficulties with intimate relationships. Children with divorced or divorcing parents often have a sense of abandonment, because their parents become too preoccupied with their own psychological, social, and economic distress that they forget about their kid’s needs.
A divorce in the family creates a major life changes for most children. In 1988, Professor Jeanne Dise-Lewis conducted a survey of 700 middle school students. The ...view middle of the document...
Since many children do not adjust well, their behavior is affected significantly. The transformation is devastating for many children and it affects them for the rest of their life. Divorce of a parent can causes many problems and affects children negatively such as poor relationship skills, deprived academics, angry issues, and as well as depression. The kids lose such things as support from the parent in finances, emotions, and care. Fewer problems will arrive if the parents alter to these losses. Most importantly, a higher chance of recovery for the children.
The most devastating factor for children’s well being is the amount of intense conflicts between the parents. Arguing in the presence of the children can create a hostile environment for the youngsters. If the quarreling cannot be controlled then that can add to a negative impact on child’s growth. Focus more on disciplining the children in a kind, but firm manner to show the kids that nurturing them is a top priority. Most important, love and approval from both parents, will contribute to the child’s sense of well being and self-worth.
Kids are so often the innocent victims in a divorce. Unconsciously, several divorce parents use their children to get the affection they are no longer getting from their spouse. This can be extremely damaging to the children. The child may feel as though he has become an emotional crutch for the longing parent. It is the duty of the parent to meet the poignant needs of their children. Children must not be used to meet the distressing needs of a deprived parent.
Unfortunately, some of the causes of divorce include the lack of money, sexual indiscretion and the ease of getting a divorce. In addition, the effects of a divorce seem insurmountable when comparing the grief it causes on both parties. The task of being a parent whether married or divorced is not easy. All parents make mistakes, but if you have a good relationship with your children, and they trust in your love and guidance, they will grow through the divorce and will become something spectacular.