The Inner World of a Future Mental Health Counselor
Welcome, you are about to embark on a journey into my inner world. Along the way, you
will discover the following: (1) what in my background helps me to think through and identify
what is right and wrong, as well as what constitutes ethical professional behavior; (2) my ethical
decision-making style. My unique style of ethical decision making which reflects my early and
ongoing experiences with moral values and issues which has been influenced and shaped by my
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Like any little girl growing up in America, I grew up being influenced by culture and
societal forces to embrace strategies to bolster my self-esteem. Quite a number of these
strategies are of dubious worth, and others are actually dangerous and self-defeating.
There came a point in my life when it was crucially important for me to embrace the idea
that I am responsible for my own healing. Friends and family can surely provide support and
certainly be a remedy for the ache of a lonely heart; however, he cannot be the cure that will
erase past experiences that may have fostered feelings of doubt and inadequacy. Each of us has
areas of vulnerability, and to some level, we all nurse old hurts. I have grown to realize that I
was burdening myself with excessive expectations, which led me to feel disappointed and
resentful. Mistakes are a fact of life, and we develop as we learn from them. Learning from past
mistakes prevent repeated mistakes. Having such knowledge will not only help a person to
develop into their fullest potentials and have a clearer prospective of, but may help guide another
person along the way, the journey will not have been in vain.
I believe that the clearer you are about what you value and believe in, the happier and more
effective you will be. The assumptions we make about ourselves, about others in the world and
about how we expect things to be – how we think things really are, what we think is really true
and what therefore expect as likely consequences that will follow from our behavior.
I have come to appreciate that many of the limitations one faces in life are self-imposed. What
you believe about yourself can keep you locked behind your fears or thrust you forward into
living your dreams. "We are what we think," taught Buddha. "Change your thinking, change
your life," said Ernest Holmes. "If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're
right," advised Mark Twain. You become what you believe you are. I think of myself as a work
in progress. I often meditate and identify old limiting beliefs that may be holding me back and
get rid of them starting with the right mindset.
I believe that the elements of personality ethic, such as communication skills, influence
strategies, and positive thinking, will prove to be essential for my success as a counselor;
however these are secondary, not primary traits. Only basic goodness gives life to techniques. To
achieve great results, I focus first on myself – my deepest motives and perceptions – and then on
My unique style of ethical decision making