One of two marriages ends in divorce. This fact impacts the loves of many children because the effect of divorce is not limited to the adults. Divorce deeply effects everyone involved especially the children. Research provides evidence of the negative impact on children and how it effects the differently according to the age. It is important that the adults involved be aware of the consequences their divorce will have on the life of their children and take responsibility of setting guidelines for themselves to help their child through this difficult time. Based on careful studies, it is shown that children of divorced parents can function and love normal lives. With a good ...view middle of the document...
“Many children do not realize their parents’ marriage is in trouble; therefore the pain children experience at the beginning of the divorce can be great” (Eleoff, 2003).
Divorce automatically comes across as an act that is negative. The falling apart of something like an intimate relationship or partnership speaks negatively and possible add some embarrassment. When divorce happens, sometimes the party who is forgotten or overlooked is children. Just as parents are stressed, afraid, and uncertain about what will happen, children are the more. The sense of security has been threatened by divorce. This can cause significant emotional stress for children of all ages.
All couples experience some kind of conflict within their marriage, conflicts that can arise from various reasons. Couples disagree about the finances of the household, about intimacy about how to raise their children etc. For some couples, they can work through the conflict and manage to stay together, while others reach the point of no return. The only alternative for a couple such as this is to end their marriage by filing for a divorce, the legal end of marriage. For couples who seek a divorce, it is often because they cannot overcome certain problems in their marriage.
Research shows that the divorce rate has drastically increased over the past fifty years, and for the United States it is much higher than other countries in the world. It is believed that divorce is accepted more now by society than before. This makes it easier for couples to get divorced today because it is not frowned upon like it once was.
Whenever couples have martial conflict that leads to divorce, it can be a very stressful time in their lives. However adults are not the only ones involved.
In most cases, divorce catches the children off guard. It is unexpected, sudden, and scary. The fear and uncertainty presented to the child within a divorce lead to various emotions for children; grief, loss, helplessness, anger and loneliness etc. Support systems for children may be needed to aid with not only the adults, but also for the child.
Reactions to divorce and how it affects the entire schematic of a stable family varies from child to child and from age to age:
Pre-School (ages 3-5):
Lesley Foulkes-Jamison, Ph.D (2001) stated, “That a preschooler’s reaction to and ability to understand their parents’ divorce will be very different from that of an adolescent. Children at this age have fewer coping skills, and find divorce very difficult. Children at this sensitive stage in their lives, often blame themselves for their parents not being together. According to Sara Eleoff (2003), leads the preschooler to exhibit a regression of the most recent developmental milestone they achieved. Ruben Francis agrees with this regression may include bed wetting, sleep disturbances and may become aggressive towards one of the parents as blaming them for the separation. Preschoolers have...