When it comes to different styles of talking there are many different ways to communicate with one another. If you are engaged in a conversation with someone it is very important that the person you are speaking with understands what you are trying to say to them. If the person you are speaking with has a funny facial expression they may not understand what you are trying to say to them and in this case it is important to break down the conversation further to get a point across. The article that we read in the ProQuest Data base states â€œunconscious verbal coordination of this sort, dubbed language-style matching by the researchers, signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is paying attention to what the other saysâ€ (Bower, 2010).
When it comes to language style matching I do not think it is a thorough way to ...view middle of the document...
Two people that have a hard time communicating may very well have a great relationship. When I was married my ex-husband was from Thailand I will admit that when we first started dating I at times had a very hard time understanding what he was saying but I took the time to ask him exactly what point he trying to get across. By confirming what he was trying to say kept me out of trouble, I learned very quickly not to just agree with him to shut him up. We were married for eleven years and as the years went by and his English became better it was much easier to communicate with him, we are still one speaking terms and now that he has been in this country for thirty-three years it is a lot easier to understand him I have friends that talk to him and they still have a hard time understanding him.
The second question I need to answer is do I think the results provided by the Language Style Matching website were accurate? I felt that the conservation that I entered may not have been enough information to accurately give me my score. My score was 0.61; I donâ€™t save my conservations with other people but the one that I did have saved was a conversation on Facebook between an old family friend and me. It was a casual conversation asking how they were, how her husband was (he is a leukemia survivor) and asking for a phone number.
When I think about how people should talk to each other I remember a clichÃ© that my mother once told me â€œsay what you mean, mean what you say but donâ€™t be mean about what youâ€™re sayingâ€. And if there is ever any doubt about what is being said ask questions until it is perfectly clear what the message may be.
Bower, B. (2010, November 22). Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance. Washington, USA.
Sole, K. (2011). Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication. San Deigo , CA, USA.