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Shared Talking Styles
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
June 20, 2011
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Shared Talking Styles
I read the article, “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance” by Bruce Bower.
He talked about how the length of relationships can be based on your styles of communication. Bower
also discusses how the use of function words such as; pronouns, articles, conjunctions, prepositions
and negations”(Bower) can have an affect on conversation partners. He goes own to explain how
language style matching “signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is
paying attention to what the other says”(Bower). After reading the article, I went to the Language Style
Matching website and took the test. In this essay I will talk about my score and my thoughts about the
Language Style Matching test.
When I first read the directions to the Language ...view middle of the document...
I thought that we would get a higher score
than what we received.
I do not know how they come up with the scoring on this test, the information that they used to
compute the scores. I do not believe that language style matching is a thorough way to predict the
quality of interpersonal relationships or any kind of relationship. I think test like these are for certain
kinds of people given by a certain kind of person. Bower express the idea that if two people work in
two different career fields, they will use different nouns and verbs to talk to each other about their jobs,
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but will use the same functions if they are friends. I do not agree with this statement. I believe it
depends on a lot of factors that makes up the relationship, how well they know each other and how
long they have known each other. I do not think their career fields will have an effect on their
language and communication.
In conclusion, I don't think a Language Style Matching test can determine if any relationship
will last or how long it will last. I think people are connected with each by time, likes, dislikes,
environment, what they are willing to invest and not invest. I think all relationships has a compromise
station and it is up for the people to allow or not allow certain things to take place. I believe the way
communication has evolved has a lot to do with the length of a relationship. I think the types of
communication has a big impact on what relationships will last, as stated in our text formal and
informal language can have an effect to whom you are talking to. When using formal language, you
are communicating in a professional manner when using informal language you are using slang and
communicating with friend(Sole, 2011). I believe depending on who you are communicating with and
the words that are used will determine if the interpersonal relationship will last.
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Bower, B.. (2010, November). Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance. U.S. News & World Report, 1. Retrieved June 19, 2011, from ABI/INFORM Global. (Document ID: 2223940991)
Sole, Kathy, 2011. Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication. Ashford.content.edu