The Webster-Merriam dictionary defines intimacy as “an intimate quality or state: such as emotional warmth and closeness; sexual relations; or something that is very personal and private” (Webster, 1993). Lori Gordon (2004) in her article Intimacy: The Art of Relationship writes that intimacy should involve emotional and physical closeness. When most people think about intimacy they probably think about sex but intimacy is a much deeper connection than sex. Intimacy is more of an emotional and spiritual connection as well as a physical connection. From the moment we are born we seek for a connection, a feeling of ...view middle of the document...
Many young adults and teenagers today are waiting less to have sex and longer to get married; unfortunately they are missing out on the blessings and the true pleasure of sex by not waiting until they are married to the person God has already prepared for them. In the bible we see from the very beginning that God created a woman for man and intended for them to be united before they consumed their marriage through sex. Genesis 2:24 says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” the two of them should become one through the act of sexual intercourse; the man will be united with his wife, from a Christian point of view sex should be consumed between two spouses but unfortunately that is not the case for most people today.
To be abstinent it means to wit to have any kind of sexual encounters until marriage, this includes sexual intercourse as well as oral sex. Today many teenagers are having oral sex instead of intercourse thinking that they are still remaining abstinent, but that is not that case; also, the risks for sexually transmitted disease are just as high trough oral sex as with sexual intercourse. Many young adults today, especially college students or recent graduates, are not looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage; they simply “hook up” they have sexual encounters without any emotional strings attached (Wilson, 2009). According to Wilson (2009) “marriage is often the last thing on the minds of young people leaving college today” they are more interested in their careers and establishing a balanced life before they start searching for a spouse and begin a family.
According to Balswick and Balswick (2008) there are three reasons why sex should be saved for marriage: the richness of love, the richness of sex and the richness of marriage. The richness of love is the commitment that two individual have for each other, it is the love that one person has for the other. It is a romantic attraction that leads on individual particularly for the other, for example the romantic attraction and commitment between the lovers in Song of Songs; the lovers refer to each other as “I am my beloved and my beloved is mine” (Song 6:3) (Balswick & Balswick, 2008).
The richness of sex refers to the seal of love between the two individuals, “good sex has to do with person-centered love” (Balswick & Balswick, 2008). When two individuals love each other and give each other in the sexual marital union it is not just a union of their body but their soul and minds as well, their connection supersedes the sexual pleasure alone it becomes and emotional and spiritual connection. 1 Corinthians 7:2-3 says “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband,” sex is a fulfillment of the marital bond.
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