Self-Forgiveness: The Stepchild of Forgiveness Research
September 25, 2011
Self-Forgiveness: The Stepchild of Forgiveness Research is an article that focuses on the importance of comparing and contrasting interpersonal forgiveness as well as intrapersonal forgiveness. Not only does this article emphasizes the definitions and classifications of self-forgiveness, but also identifies the emotional and social cognitive determents, the limitations and implications self-forgiveness may trigger. Julie Hall and Frank Fincham composed this article with great detail and research to analyze the importance of self-forgiveness and examining the conventional issues that must be ...view middle of the document...
To exonerate, is not to say that one’s behavior was tolerable or should be unnoticed, it also should be an attentive attempt that does not appear inadvertently.
I feel that this article is a direct representation of the way people view self-forgiveness. Some may not view self-forgiveness as a foundation for the actual process of forgiving. Few may believe that the act of forgiving is contingent upon the one who offends and not the offender. I feel that self-forgiveness is vital for both the offender and the offended. Reason being is that the focus of the forgiveness can be understood and the behaviors between both parties can reconcile its “revenge” between another. Some may believe that self-forgiveness is an ordinary apprehension – and disparagement of self-help psychology – is that self-forgiveness is a flamboyant, politically correct, socially customary way of letting ourselves “off the hook” by ducking responsibility and individual blame. I feel that is far from true, in fact I believe that self-forgiveness is the innate starting place for anyone who wants to manage a moral life as uninhibited from insincerity as is humanly feasible.
I believe that this article describes the determinants of self-forgiveness accurately and precise. According to Hall and Fincham self-forgiveness has raised to concerns when addressing the appropriateness. The first is whether self-forgiveness is justified when an individual has committed a truly heinous offense, and the second concern is that is it a sign of disrespect toward the victim, and thus only appropriate after the offender is granted forgiveness by the victim. (Hall & Fincham, 2005) I feel that when an offender concedes and accepts responsibility for the transgression and is prepared to genuinely express regret or make amends to the victim, self-forgiveness is not a sign of disrespect. Be that as it may once a crime is committed against someone “I’m...