For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the
very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is
good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know
that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do
what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but
the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing (Romans 7:15-24 New Revised
As I ponder over the significance of knowing and understanding my behavioral blend, I sought an answer through my most trusted source, the Bible. When I read the aforementioned scripture, I was able to gain some understanding of what it truly meant to understand myself. In my interpretation, the quote from Romans Chapter 7 affirms that if we do not know and recognize our own actions, then we will continue to commit the same erroneous ...view middle of the document...
I love to help others, and I have a very personable and friendly personality. I also like consistency. All of these presumed attributes are completely accurate, and it appears that this would be the perfect personality blend; however, there are some downfalls to my behavioral type. For me, this is the basis for understanding behavioral blend – we must understand our downfalls in order to self-evaluate and change for the better. In my future career as a counseling professional, I need to realize that spontaneity is sometimes needed. Yes, I prefer for things to be consistent, well thought out, and planned, but it is not very realistic in the world of counseling (or other professions). I need to be able to change and adjust when necessary – people/clients will not always act as I expect.
Communication and Identity
Upon my reflection on behavioral blend and its importance, I have also come to the conclusion that knowing myself is essential in effectively and sufficiently communicating with others. Colossians 4:6 states, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” According to the findings acquired in this past week’s reading, this statement is valid. Effective communication is extremely important in the field of counseling – I must know when to be verbal as well as when to be nonverbal. I must understand how and when to respond to individuals in various situations. As referenced in Bridges Not Walls a Book About Interpersonal Communication (Stewart 2012), interpersonal communication is vital in interacting with others. In order to meet certain goals (within the counseling profession)as well as establish and maintain healthy and efficient relationships, I have no choice but to practice good communication skills. I have also come to understand what is required of me in order to enlarge the conversation – it is imperative for me to ask questions (for clarity), listen with an empathetic ear, and respond in an appropriate and beneficial manner. Creating and developing goals in terms of how I will expand my communication abilities will allow me to have more control over my actions and reactions. Ultimately, it enables me to have more meaningful interactions with others.