DeVry University Ft. Washington, Pa
December 2, 2012, 2012
Tension between Joshua and Leonora is getting thicker and thicker. Joshua wants his wife to stay home and take care of their child. Leonora wants to return to work so she can progress with her career. There’s definitely a major conflict between the two and there is some ways that it can be resolved. The first principle in the guidelines for constructive conflict management is express anger directly and with kindness. Joshua and Leonora obviously have an issue that should be ...view middle of the document...
Leonora states “you” want this and that in her statements and she shouldn’t state her concerns in that way. This guideline is called avoiding attacks. Don’t blame Joshua for anything but use the word I to rephrase how you express yourself. Along with this you shouldn’t send any mixed messages. Mixed messages contradict each other and this is the next guideline in conflict management. Joshua and Leonora should pick a mutual time between them to sit down and talk about this situation. This guideline is choosing time and place carefully which is pretty self-explanatory. Once you are in your mutual place, the next step is to address a specific issue, ask for specific change, and be open to compromise. For Joshua this should be what he initiates. After this, the next guideline is be willing to change yourself. Maybe Joshua shouldn’t expect Leonora to change and maybe change himself. Between Joshua and Leonora, nobody should try to win. An agreement should be worked out between the two where they both win. When feelings settle down and peace finally comes back in one of the last steps is be willing to forgive. When Joshua and Leonora make an agreement they should forgive each other for getting upset and angry with one another. Last but not least they should end the argument. If they follow these steps they will come to a mutual agreement and the situation can be resolved so much easier then where it is headed right now.