Is it better not to tell the truth to a good friend? Telling the truth can in some cases be unnecessary hurtful and may even jeopardize your relationships. Sometimes, we have disagreements in our life. These disagreements can upset you. We do not want our life to be messy; we want to make it easy, so that disagreements will decrease. Consequently, I do not usually tell the truth to my good friends. My statements usually agree with what they have showed me or have told me, because I have experienced fights started by telling friends the truth.
My experience happened last year, when Jason, Howard, and I were still good friends. I still remember how everything happened. We used to go to the mall often. One summer day, we were shopping in the mall. It was a great sunny day and it was quite ...view middle of the document...
It would not be nice for him. However, Howard started to comment on the shoes negatively. He said “Why are you wearing this kind of shoes? They don’t fit you and they are absolutely horrible.” These words hurt Jason. After Howard finished talking, Jason exploded as a volcano explodes. I was shocked for a while because I had never seen him really mad before. I was nervous and afraid if they fought in the mall. I immediately ran into the middle of Jason and Howard and made sure they were not going to fight. Fortunately, they did not fight but they argued in loud voices. You could hear their voices down the mall and they never stopped until we walked out of the mall. Everyone stared at us three and I felt embarrassed. I was the arbitrator for them but I did not help much because Howard had hurt Jason’s feelings. Afterwards, they did not talk to each other for a couple of months. It was extremely awkward for me because I did not know which side I should be on. From this experience, I learned not to tell the truth, if it hurt or upset people.
I learned from that experience that people do not like to hear harsh truths. They like you to agree with them and to be a good listener, but some people cannot stand what they see or hear so they just tell the truth. Apparently, they fight and are not friendly anymore.
Friendships can be uneasy, but sometimes you can tell the truth when you think your statement will not hurt your friends too much. Although they may agree with you, it is not usually a good idea to tell the truth to your friends because it can break your friendships too easily. Nevertheless, you can sometimes imply to them what you think. This action gives some space between you and your friends. You can also keep your friendships longer and will not hurt people too much. I therefore have decided not to tell a harsh truth to friends, if it will hurt them. This is how I feel for all my friends.