Letter of Advice: A Long-lasting Loving Healthy Relationship
May 1, 2013
Hi Tim and Sara,
My name is xxxxxxxxx
I understand that you two are newly engaged, and were made aware that I was taking a course in Interpersonal Communication; additionally, as a couple you are seeking suggestions and advice regarding your relationship. I will share knowledge from the course material, and from my life experiences both good and bad. In this letter I will discuss strategies for empathic listening, recognizing the power of words, how nonverbal expressions affect relationships, and how to create a positive communication climate. ...view middle of the document...
In other words, when people in intimate relationships concern themselves with the problems and issues of others with compassion, and sympathy, life continues to advance. As imperfect and perfect as humans are, empathy serves as a yoke or connection that balances out what humanity can achieve. When couples communicate, it requires a sender (the root of the message), and the receiver (the person on the receiving end of the message) to engage in interpersonal communication. One of the keys to a strong and long-term relationship is the ability to communicate well, and to listen effectively when someone else is talking.
Occasionally, you may have to put up with or deal with uncomfortable situations from each others pass e.g., children, and pass friendships. I would not necessary worry about this early in the relationship. From my experience as your relationship develops, these situations will correct itself; thus I know each relationship in different. I mention my parents earlier and how they help guide my footsteps in my marriage, and this is an example. My husband endured my friends more than she would have like to for the first three years of our marriage, and believed she had to accept my friends as well. My father saw what was transpiring and read a Bible passage to me. (Genesis 2:24 King James Version), therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. I still spent time with my friends; however, my husband came first in every aspect of my life.
Develop strategies for active, critical, and empathic listening.
According to Orbuch, a research scientist, people can chat for hours and never at one time discuss some meaningful or significant content; therefore, couples can improve and develop sustainable communication that proven useful in relationship, and cheerful marriages that endure for life (as cited in Schoenberg, 2011). Orbuch who just a short time ago wrote regarding the down-to-earth connotations of her analysis concerning taking steps to elevate marriage form marginal to exceptional by participating in substance discussion daily for approximately 10 minutes (Schoenberg, 2011). One most certain path to trustworthy relationships, emotional intimacy, and cheerful marriages is using well polish listening skills, and empathy.
One may often need to reflect on many types of listening skills such as people skills, emotional intelligence, appropriate skill selection, and communication ethically. A listener is thought of empathic not entirely for the reason he or she listens; however, as well in consequence that he or she makes it understandable that he or she is paying full attention. Newlywed couples need to develop strategies for effective listening for instance, encouraging each other to communicate absence of judgment, show patience and do not interrupt each other, and allow the one disclosing to conduct the conversation. According to Sole (2011),“researchers report that...