America has become a fast-paced society of people with no interaction. Families are busier, with little time for trivialities such as having dinner together or getting to know one another through conversation. Drive-thru lanes provide quick and hassle free services of increasing variety. Vacation spots offer walk in wedding chapels and coming soon are the drive-thru divorce lanes. Learning to talk about conflict instead of running from it is a skill lacking in today’s culture. It should not be so easy to quit on marriage. This paper will show that couples attending counseling before a divorce will slow the sky rocketing divorce rates in the United States.
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This has done nothing more than provide moral deterioration in the country and teach younger generations that it is easy to give up without a fight.
According to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. The statistics show that allowing couples to call it quits will not fix the problem. Those that end up in another marriage have not learned how
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to be in a relationship, and rack up divorces as fast as they do marriages. The divorce rate was not always on a steady slope to destruction. The laws were not as lenient as they are today. In 2001, the divorce rate was almost doubled that of 1960. (Family Research Council, April 2004). The divorce law in the United States was the fault system, in which fault-based grounds such as adultery, cruelty, or desertion were required for divorce. Marriage did not end on a whim or because the couple felt unhappy (Family Research Council, April 2004).
What is the answer to a problem in our country? Counseling, is an area that has proved to be successful for couples willing to make a detour from the divorce lane. I am aware of two personal stories in my circle of couples headed to divorce because they just were not in love anymore. The love was there at one time, admitted by both parties. It takes work to restore anything that has lacked attention. After attending a few counseling sessions, one of the husbands reported that he was encouraged to watch the movie “Fireproof” and read the...