Maulana Wahiduddin Khan answers questions posed by students on the eve of their exams
The pressure of studies together with the repeated questioning of my parents is stressful and I end up getting very depressed thinking of the consequences if I do not meet my parents’ expectations.
Parents are always eager for their children’s success. But at the same time, they should be realists. Parents must limit themselves to doing wise counseling. It would be counterproductive if they constantly question their children and apply immense pressure on them.
Parents must know that in practical life, getting less marks in exams is relative. Because, a student learns even if he gets less marks, and ...view middle of the document...
However, the person who is aware of the principles of life, then success follows.
Regarding suicide, I would say that you are judging yourself from others’ eyes. This is completely wrong. You have to take decisions on your own, and discover your own worth. You have to try to be a self-made man, discover your potential and try to turn this potential into actuality. Suicide is not an option. Discover your potential and you will realise that suicide is akin to underestimating both yourself and the Creator.
I think I have a split personality that is compelling me on like a strict mentor. But pressure to match up to my friends hounds me, and I find that I am unable to concentrate. How do I deal with this?
The criterion of matching up to a friend or anyone else is not what decides who gets more marks in exams. It is more important that you understand the realities of life. The future of your friend in unknown, but it is a completely known fact that those superachievers who achieved great success in life, got so due to their inner qualities and not because of scoring more marks in an exam.
Don’t take your friend as an ideal. There are thousands of such books which discuss the lives of successful persons. You should read these books and try to draw lessons from their lives.
Excessive academic stress is telling on my nerves. I sometimes go completely blank and I am on the verge of a breakdown. I want my family to talk to me more, but they leave me entirely alone saying that I shouldn’t be disturbed. I am beginning to...