Interpersonal Communication in a Marriage
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Stephanie May
April 28th, 2014
Dear Michael and Lisa,
Relationships are a lot of hard work, and they become harder when a pairs relationship blossoms into a marriage. It takes two strong people to put in the work to make the marriage become greater by the day. In order to succeed in a marriage the couple has to be willing to compromise, and work together to keep their lives in balance. It is not always easy to make decisions and think about another person before making a choice in your life. Balance trust, and understanding are things that are needed to create a happy and long lasting healthy ...view middle of the document...
This is not a good trait to practice. Instead of assuming things a person should simply ask and speak up about what they do not understand. This way you are not left confused or wondering about the subject. “Communication involves conscious choices and unconscious influences” (Sole, 2011). Conscious and unconscious choices play a major role in our lives. This is especially so when things are second nature to us.
Identify the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions.
In interpersonal relationships it requires two people to work together to achieve success in their relationship. This requires talking out problems with one another, and also listening and trying to understand each other instead of replying right away without first understanding the other person’s point of view. “Problems often occur in relationships when one person tries to assume authority over the other person in a relationship that has been on an equal footing” (Sole, 2011). This communication is not always achieved in the beginning stages of marriages. “Divorce commonly occurs in the wake of low levels of satisfaction, highly satisfying marriages are also vulnerable to dissolution” (Lavner, & Bradbury, 2012). In some instances certain forms of communication has to be learned.
People seem to not understand that marriages are not always happy and fun filled. “Most people tend to think that they perceive the world as it really is; however the truth is that they perceive only a small portion of what they encounter in the outside environment” (Sole, 2011). It is okay to have a disagreement with your spouse. It can even be healthy to do so, from time to time. What is unhealthy is always agreeing with things that you do not totally agree with or are not comfortable with. “Unexpressed feelings accumulate over time and you have a tendency to dump them on someone all at one time”( Sole, 2011). In communication where one person is always agreeing with their spouse to make them feel at ease, when they do not totally agree can cause spouses to become resentful and create an unhealthy medium in their marriage. This is why it is good to communicate and try to stay on the same page with each other interpersonally.
Describe the process by which self concept is developed and maintained.
“The capacity to control your emotions, urges, and desires has been shown to result in healthier intimate relationships because you are willing and able to sacrifice your own needs, at times, for the benefit of your partner and the relationship” (Sole, 2011). In a marriage your needs do not always come first. You have to work as a team, and sometimes that means taking extra care of your spouse in their time of need. Self concept is developed by the way that a person views their self. It does not matter how others on the outside truly view them.
If a person does not think that they are attractive, or are not satisfied with who they are as a whole they tend to think that others see them in...