Article Critique: Talking Styles
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Robert Strain
March 30, 2014
When we have good communication skills it will lead to a happier life, learning to communicate with others is to convey messages, thoughts, and emotions. In this assignment we will compare results acquired from utilizing the Language Style Matching website to see if they are accurate, and also to find out if the beliefs regarding the quality of an interpersonal relationship are based on the quantity of language match. What got my attention was the one sentence, “If you just click with somebody but can’t put your finger on why, there’s a fair chance that high language-style matching is going on”. (Bower, 2010). My score for the site was .75, I met this friend of mine at work she is younger than I but for some reason we just clicked, why I do not know because we have totally ...view middle of the document...
And you become more responsible by making sure that your language is appropriate for the situation, the other person to whom you are speaking, and the purpose of the communication” (Sole K, 2010, sec 4.4). There are points in the article that I agree with, but there are also some I do not agree with. If we are arguing we use similar word choices, tones of our voice, and we have a tendency to listen while we are arguing than when we are having a regular conversation. In the article Bower (2010) articulates “unconscious verbal coordination of this sort, dubbed language-style matching by the researchers, signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is paying attention to what the other says” (Bower, 2010). I agree with this statement, because if two people are talking and not paying attention to each other, they will not notice the proper words to correspond with. People on the same level of communication have a better chance in getting along in a relationship, versus people who is not on the same level of verbal understanding.
I have to disagree with the LSM grading, the conversation between me and my goddaughter was not very long but you could tell that we miss each other and have a very good relationship. Sometime people do not write long sentence when talking online to each other just enough to show that we miss someone that is not around us a lot. Psychologist and marriage counselors say that the most important component in a relationship is being able to communicate with each other. If a couple have the ability to communicate with each other, then any issue they have can be worked through. Not only with couple can this happen it can also affect family members and friendship, in any kind of relationship you need to communicate with each other to have better understanding of each other.
Bower, b. (2010, November) Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance. U.S News & World Report, Retrieved from ProQuest found in Ashford Online Library
Online Research Consortium from Universities Around the World
Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication Bridgepoint Education (Sole, K. 2011)