According to Erikson, there are eight stages of life. They are infancy, early childhood, childhood (play age), childhood (school age), adolescents and young adulthood, adulthood, mature adulthood, and old age. I just turned 26 in February but I believe that psychologically I am in the adulthood portion of my life. The last few years I have been asking myself the questions; Who am I? and How do I fit into society? I would say that about eight years ago I began the sixth stage of life, intimacy verses isolation. I had just graduated high school and was looking for that special someone. I knew that I wanted to start dating and it would be difficult, but I kept asking myself How I can love someone? The relationships between the two stages are complex and many people define themselves through intimate relationships with ...view middle of the document...
A person answers several questions about dating, friendship, and interpersonal he/she commitments may be classified into four categories; Intimate- works at developing mutual personal relationships, has several close friends, involved in a committed love relationship, and is able to express both affectionate and angry feeling in the relationship. Preintimate- person has dated but is not involved in a committed love relationship, is aware of the possibilities of relating intimately with others, and feels conflicted about commitment and love relationships. Stereotyped- constricted and immature person who has not gone beyond superficial dating relationships, has several friends but they lack significant depth, and he/she dates regularly but does not get involved. Isolated- lacks enduring personal relationships, rarely initiates social contact and rarely dates, and the person tends to be anxious and immature lacking assertiveness and social skills.
If I was to do a self assessment of myself, I would say that I am intimate because I am involved in a committed relationship with two different men. I am talking marriage with one who I am engaged to and the other started as my best friend and ended up being more than a friend. I am going to have to do some souls searching and decide who would be the best lifetime partner. I have several mutual relationships with everyone I know and I don’t have any problem expressing my feelings to my either my fiancée or best friend. I would say that both of my guy friends are at mature adulthood because they are both older than I am. My fiancée is 47 and my best friend is 62. They both know the answers to the questions What is love and How does he know what love is?
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