Closed versus Open Adoption
Week 6, Exercise 2
April 22, 2012
Society has gone through changes but many of the foundations of the adoption system are
related to how the world was. The matter in which children are adopted is still based on
primitive ideas of the past. Forty years ago, the idea of a single mother was an unthinkable
and shameful situation. Women were expected to be proper and wait for marriage before
making love to a man. The social opinions were important and life altering at that period. ...view middle of the document...
Questions will arise for the woman who
gave away a piece of herself but no reassuring answers are given in the closed adoption
system. In the process, there is a mediator, or a person who is the only contact for the
adoptive parents to find out information. Anything that the adoptive parents needed to know
is relay through a social worker or lawyer depending on how the adoption is taking
place. When the baby is born, this ‘middle person’ will inform the adoptive
parents and arrange the time and location for pick-up. In this situation, it seems as though
there is being an exchange of a lifeless object, which is why closed adoption is not a healthy
adoption system for children.
Children who are adopted using the closed adoption style are left with multiple questions. The
adoptive children have a lack of identity and are kept in the dark regarding where they came
from. “The search for identity is an essential, inescapable part of life. As children, we ask our
parents questions about where we came from, who we look like, why we’re short or blond or
freckled (Goldstein 2005) . The way that the closed adoption system works prevents the child
from contact with or even obtaining information about his or her birth parents. As children
grow up and become more conscious of life they wonder, why things are a certain way and
how or where did they come about existing. The multiple questions create a difficult
atmosphere for the adoptive parents. There is no easy way to approach the issue of adoption
with a child that feels it was abandon because it was ugly or bad. Adoptive
parents in a closed adoption do not have the ability to answer those pressing questions, which
causes even more confusion for the child. A child who has no answers to their own
background will create their own past, there parents could be movie stars or an evil family
who did not love him or her, the imagination is endless.
Everyone involved in a closed adoption gets hurt; it is a harsh, unnecessary system. In open
adoption the processes involves the two families working together. The birthmother in an
open adoption is able to choose or evaluate who she wants to take care of her baby. A mother
wants to make sure that her child will be properly taken care. Similar people would be the
best bet for choosing adoptive parents. Birthmothers’ picking the future family is a new
adoption concept, but it solves a few problems involved in closed adoption.
The contact between families helps benefit the child’s future. Through researches that have
taken place some supportive evidence has been discovered, “children who had contact with
birthparents were rated more favorably in terms of behavior by their adoptive parents then
children who had no contact with birth parents.. In open adoption, the...