A common mistake of many individuals is to assume high intellectual quotients determine one’s ability to succeed. The ability of a human to succeed is determined by a larger scope of intelligence. Emotional Intelligence (EI) can often be the differentiating factor in the achievement of successful lives and careers. Goleman (2006) identified the fundamentals of emotional intelligence (E.I.) as consisting of “self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and the ability to manage relationships.” (p. xv). Goleman (2006) indicates that emotional intelligence is a prime determinant of leadership as opposed to intelligence quotient (I.Q.) when he stated “…E.I. ...view middle of the document...
Traditional cognitive intelligence, as referenced by Goleman (2009) involves the realm of thought processing;”Conventional wisdom among cognitive scientists held that intelligence entails a cold, hard-nosed processing of fact” (p. 40). Emotional intelligence on the other hand, involves the realm of feelings. Emotional intelligence was described formally by Salovey and Mayer (1990). They defined it as “the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.” (p. 189). A person can be recognized as “a genius”, and lack emotional intelligence. In the medical field, often gifted Neurosurgeons or Research Scientists lack the ability to relate, empathize, or socialize with others. Their lives could be considered emotionally impoverished; however their academic contributions are invaluable. Most fields of occupation that involve interaction with others require social, intuitive, and practical emotional intelligence to be successful. Charismatic leaders are in tune with their employees, Goleman (2009) stated “Among the practical intelligences that are, for instance so highly valued in the workplace is the kind of sensitivity that allows effective managers to pick up tacit messages” (p. 42). In my opinion, emotional intelligence offers rich and diverse emotional experiences; whereas cognitive intelligence is important in many fields such as science and mathematics, it can be viewed as an emotionally barren experience. A person that has cognitive intelligence coupled with emotional intelligence has ideal qualities to succeed.
The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in all Aspects of Life.
Emotional intelligence impacts every personal, social, and professional interaction. Every individual deserves and desires to be treated with empathy and respect. People value interactions that indicate objective concern and interest in them and what they have to express. I often smile at the strangers I encounter. The transformation from their guarded and distant affect to a warm smile confirms the “humanness” of most interactions. Connecting to other people in a positive empathic manner can be transformational. The transformation of positive energy can be inspirational and motivating. Emotional intelligence connects people in a positive and healthy manner in all aspects of life. .
The Use of Emotional Intelligence
I utilize the use of emotional intelligence concepts in all interactions; including my work life, home life, and personal life. Goleman (2006) refers to the five main domains of emotional intelligence as “…self awareness…, managing emotions…, motivating oneself…, recognizing emotions in others…, and handling relationships.”(p. 43). In my work life as an RN assistant manager, I am viewed as the “expert” resource. My interactions with my staff involve decision- making, limit-setting,...