PREFACE
A separation is a difficult time for both parents. But through the eyes of a child is not only difficult but traumatic and confusing. Anyone of us don’t want to be a victim of this situation, because it has a terrible effect
The paper is future-focused; it will apply a social analytical perspective to the issues, and a focus on children’s needs and paternal / parental responsibilities to these needs.
The research defined the point of physical parental separation, different effects to the children, the reason why they are affected, and access-related problems like dangers on their part which represent not only legal challenges, but also a “bio-psycho-social-spiritual” ...view middle of the document...
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1. Both Parents Must be Involved ………………………………........... 9
2. Separating Parents Must Respect One Another……………………… 9
3. Keep a Routine. ………………………………................................. 10
4. Get Help When Needed. ………………………............................... 10
VI. SUMMARY………………………................................................................. 11
VII. BIBLIOGRAPHY………………………....................................................... 12
I. INTRODUCTION
It is hard to imagine a more difficult transition for a child than to be a party to his or her parents' separation. And even through attempts at reconciliation through family counseling, the children have suffered.
Separated parents’ main concern should be the physical and emotional well being of their children. Decision making should be done only in the children’s best interest, taking into consideration the inherent rights of each child.
There have been many empirical studies focusing on the effects of separation on children. Some of the common findings among all of these studies are detailed in this research.
II. EFFECTS OF SEPARATION
Psychological Problems
When separation occurs, it’s very typical for children to be unhappy and want their parents to remain together. That unhappiness can translate into low self-esteem, behavioural problems, and a sense of loss. However, if the parents take time to communicate with the children, explaining why the separation is happening, and show their love for them – and continued contact, so they don’t feel abandoned by the parent who moves out – these feelings usually disappear quickly.
That’s in the short term. There are also longer term effects that can result from separation. These, though, certainly don’t apply to all kids from separated families. There is a tendency to perform to a lower standard in school, which can eventually mean that as adults they won’t have good jobs. Children of separated families can also have greater ongoing problems with their behaviour. In general, they become sexually active at an earlier age, become pregnant younger, and experience greater levels of drinking, smoking, and drug use.
That said, it’s not always the separation itself that’s the main cause of all this. One major factor in all this is the life after separation, which can, at times, be low-income. Where both parents remain very involved with the children, and very supportive of them – especially where there’s no tension between the parents – the outcomes are often very good indeed.
B. Myths about Problems
One common preconception is that boys don’t adjust to separation as well as girls, but there’s been no evidence in studies to show any difference between the sexes in this. Similarly, it doesn’t seem to matter how old the child is when separation occurs, at least in terms of long-term outcome. Nor does the absence of one parent from the household necessarily mean an...
