The information contained within this paper serves the purpose of comparing attachment disorders and the effects that it may have on the bonding experience between parents and their child/children. It takes into account and describes a number of real life experiences, including that of the infamous Jeffrey Dahmer, of which attachment disorders may have possibly been present and the analysis of what role these disorders played within the bonding encounter. There is the discussion of how attachment disorders interrupt everyday life situations, and the effects of ignoring these disorders. It goes on to discuss how attempting to establish a bond with a child later on in life could be ...view middle of the document...
For example, if you were holding a conversation with a stranger and you all bonded, but once the stranger left, you forget everything that was said, which means that you where not attached.
Attachment disorders are usually discovered first in children and generally takes place in the first 8 to 36 months (Grace, 1998). Adults may confuse the behaviors associated with it as a child simply acting out in dismissive. Problems within intimate relationships, relationships as the primary caregiver and their social life can be affected (Grace, 1998). Attachment helps develop a sense of safety, encourages socialization, stimulates intellectual and psychological growth, and influences identity (Grace, 1998). Overlooking attachment disorders can be damaging in the future.
I try to explain to my oldest sister, how important it is to spend time with my niece, not only as a mother but also to develop a bond between a child and his or her parent. She just does not seem to find it as a priority. Her priorities consist of clubs, bars, hanging out with friends etc. Therefore, my niece was always with me or my mom. Ever since I can remember, my sister has never tried to spend any time with her. I personally think my niece is suffering from an attachment disorder.
My niece is now six years old and she acts like she is a teenager. She acts out in school, public and pretty much wherever there is a crowd and she feel likes she needs attention. She acts in this manner with everyone, but she really gets carried away with my sister. It is said that, “loving parenting and sensitive conversation are simply not enough, and the absence of early attachment cannot be talked, loved or played away. We must intervene at the physiological level of early disruption; the point at which the damage occurred” (Grace, 1998, ¶1). With this being said, my sister realizes the situation and does not put forth the effort to correct the damage and I do not understand why. I wonder since attachment takes place between the 8 to 36 months, is it possible to start at a later age and make up for the lack of it in earlier years.
There are many different signs to show an attachment disorder is occurring: your child befriends strangers quicker than its love ones, they have difficulties maintaining eye contact, resistance to parental requests for affection and cruelty and many more (Grace, 1998). Here is an example of what can happen if an attachment disorder is ignored. The well know serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer, was said to be a happy child growing up at the age of six he became withdrawn from the public. His facial expressions were very noticeable. He went from childhood smiles to blank stares (Montaldo, 2010). Instead of playing with his peers and listening to the latest music, he was busy collecting road kill. His behavior still went unnoticed by his parents. When he went to high school, his parents got a divorce and he went to live with his father (Montaldo, 2010). Instead of...