Discipline is the process of teaching the child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable, it teaches a child to follow rules. Discipline may involve both punishment, such as a time out, and, more importantly, rewards. It sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline.
Every parent wants their children to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat. Our responsibility as a parent is to help our child become self-reliant, respectful, and self-controlled. Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals, and others can help. But the primary responsibility for discipline rests with us parents.
Take a look at current parenting styles. According to Baumrind there are three styles of ...view middle of the document...
This is a less effective form of parenting.
How do I proceed with this challenge? And how I use discipline. The discipline techniques I choose always depend on the type of inappropriate behavior my children display, my children's age and temperament, and my parenting style. I am typically an authoritative parent, I usually forgive and not punish my kids. Despite the fact that both my children have totally different temperaments I always guide and teach them.
The key to effective discipline is to understand who our child is, especially his temperamental style, and use our discipline to help him achieve his potential given those talents and tendencies. But our goal should not be to turn him into someone he is not.
As my children grew and began to understand the connection between actions and consequences, I started communicating the rules of our family's home, explained what I expect of them.
Even when disciplining my children I show respect – they are more likely to respect me, other family members, and other people in their life. If I "lose it" or overreact with disrespect, I apologize. Actually I behave the way I want them to behave.
For instance, the first time my 3-year-old son used pencil to decorate the bedroom wall, I discussed why that's not allowed and what will happen if he will do it again - he will have to help clean the wall and will not be able to use the pencils for the rest of the day. I explained also that pencils are for paper only and not for wall.
In other words I establish this kind of "I set the rules and you're expected to listen or accept the consequences" standard. Consistency is the key to effective discipline, and it's important to decide what the rules are and then uphold them. Timeouts also can work well for kids at this age, however I didn’t give them timeouts.
I always reward good behaviors. I know how positive effect my praise can have — discipline is not just about punishment but also about recognizing good behavior. Acknowledging good behavior is the best way to encourage my children to continue it. I always compliment my children when they show the behavior I've been seeking.
Developing skills for positive discipline takes a lot of practice and a lot of time.