Compare and Contrast Paper
We have all struggled with situations such as grief, loss, or stress at some time in our lives. When we seek counseling to help us overcome the feelings that are associated with these hardships it is good to know the best way to approach them. We usually just want the problem to go away and we want to feel happy and rejuvenated again. However, there are steps we must take in order to experience freedom and true happiness. Most counselors are using techniques that involve cognitive and behavioral therapy and pharmacological intervention. It isn’t that anything is wrong with these approaches; however this won’t take care of the problem. We must take ...view middle of the document...
Our normal behaviors when faced with a difficult situation cause us to act out in anger and frustration. If we are acknowledging of these behaviors, we can remind ourselves to behave in a way that would please the Lord.
Unfortunately, there are counselors condoning such behaviors and allowing them to be part of the teaching as a way for the client to express their feelings. For example, in the article Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, it teaches the approach towards “religious clients.” Although there isn’t anything wrong with being sensitive to the needs of clients with religious preferences, REBT is teaching both secularly as well as religiously. It seems to be a way to include biblical teaching but not involving God as part of the counseling process. It mentions the dangers of mixing the two “the devil can quote scriptures, and you can use almost any kind of idea to help persuade and induce people to use REBT or any other sensible philosophy. That doesn’t mean that the idea you are using is good, it just means that you can use it to good effect.” This type of practice reminds me of the churches and how priests are beginning to change the way that they approach the gospel to appeal to the masses. If you are not completely committed to one belief and reason for counseling and are not of sound doctrine, this could mean harmful things for your relationship with the client. (DeLeon, 2000)
The goal of biblical counseling is not to only help and please the client but to help them mature in their faith. (Crabb, 1977) This would be developed by following scripture through their journey of healing and teaching them to follow Christ by acting in a way that aligns with scripture. We want people to be able to use these methods when they are on their own and are faced with struggles. This is what Jesus asks us to do and we are called to follow in His word.
When we are counseling, we need to recognize the needs of our clients. The most basic need according to Crabb is a sense of personal worth. People need to understand that there is a reason they are here and that they are significant and loved unconditionally by God. (Crabb, 1977) The two primary inputs are significance and security which are different for men and women. A man’s highest need would be to feel that he is significant and worthy. A woman’s highest need is security, which means she needs to feel that she is protected and safe in a relationship. When these needs are in jeopardy during a relationship, they will want to walk away from it quickly to avoid rejection and fear of losing security. We know this to be true according to the bible. In Genesis, Adam and Eve are totally secure and confident until they sinned against God. Once they did this, they felt ashamed and insecure with themselves. This is why we must always put God in the forefront of our teaching because we must always be reliant on God to provide these things as they can always be disposable on...