April 28, 2011
McCubbin, I. Hamilton, Barbara B. Dahl, Philip J. Metres, JR., Edna J. Hunter, and John A. Plag. “Family Separation and Reunion: Families of Prisoners of War and Servicemen Missing in Action”. Washington, D.C.: U.S. Government Printing Office, 1975. Print.
This book delves into the lives of children that have an absence of their fathers caused by the assignment of the military. These authors pinpoint some of the difficult obstructions these children have to face while these men are MIA (missing in action). They talk about the adjustment and the adapting to the prolonged and seemingly indefinite absence of ...view middle of the document...
Moreover, Bowen and Orthner emphasize how the patterns and jobs of mothers change once the father is absent in the family. Women are then expected to be able to be both a mother and a father toward their children. By doing this mothers have to learn how to help with the impending developmental needs that will come with the feelings of the adolescent. The attitudes of spouses eventually start to change once they get an understanding that they are then residing in a single parent household. This book was significant to my research because Bowen and Orthner provide information about how the lives of these departing soldiers are affected when it’s time for them to come back home. The lives of the people around them are affected also because they have to learn how to cope with the PTSD. Also these two men identified how children especially are affected the most when they don’t know whether their father is going to come home or not; this showed the major emotional appeal they had on the subject.
Matasakis, Aphrodite. Vietnam Wives: Women and Children Surviving Life with Vetrans Suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Washington, D.C.: Wordscape Inc., 1988. Print.
This book portrays how PTSD affects these men emotionally and socially. It is a story of a man named Bruce who returned home from the war. After his return he was never the same afterwards; he was experiencing PTSD. He was married to a woman named Harriet that was determining if she would put him in a retirement home or not. His symptoms were so bad that it made it hard for his marriage to continue. This disorder affected Bruce from his love life all the way down to these life threatening habits he starts to develop; sometimes he goes up to ten days without saying a word, even months. He never wants to have sexual relations with his wife Harriet at all, and when they do engage in sex he’ll just stop in the middle because he starts to have these horrible thoughts or terrors. Harriet went everyday trying to decide what to she should do about a person that may never go back to being the same. Matasakis addresses these reasons for how these men development this disorder and goes deep into what it does to the men. He articulates that these men start to develop these diminished or twisted memories of the war because at that moment they feel as if they are still there. Aphrodite Matasakis explains this information in a novel form, and that is why this source was very useful to my research. The study he did in this book broke down the knowledge he had about what these men were truly going through.
Strauss, Darin. "A Long-Distance Connection." Wall Street Journal - Eastern Edition 21 Feb. 2009: W3. Academic Search Complete. EBSCO. Web. 27 Apr. 2011.
This newspaper article shares the story of Neil Rice and Andrea Truncali whose romance began as a long-distance relationship. As soon as they met Neil had to leave and go away to serve in Iraq. The passionate relationship of the two started the day...